B to Z
Mental health and wellness
B to Z
Accountability
As April's fresh breezes usher in a season of renewal, Zach Batista and I, Brandon May, share an intimate exploration of personal accountability's profound influence on growth and transformation. Imagine the strength it takes to confront your own missteps and the liberating wave that follows when you do; we delve into these moments with heartfelt transparency. Our candid conversation travels from the therapeutic landscape, where techniques like EMDR's bilateral stimulation foster healing, to the disciplined domain of military training where the weight of others' lives sharpens our sense of responsibility. We reveal how the act of making amends, though deeply personal, unlocks freedom and invites healing, not just for the individual but for all touched by the ripples of our actions.
Journey with us as we uncover the power of owning our faults and the positive transformation it can catalyze in our lives. From the inspiring paths of rehabilitation to the everyday challenge of living without comparison, we unpack the diverse experiences of being—and becoming—our best selves. Discover the varied roads to accountability and the impact of a single phone call or face-to-face conversation in setting things right. Through the stories we share and the practices we suggest, this episode stands as an invitation to our listeners to contribute their own narratives of accountability, weaving together a tapestry that celebrates how individual energy and actions shape the world we inhabit.
Good morning. Good morning. Welcome to B2Z Podcast. Hey, zach Batista, along with my co-host, brandon May. Hello everybody, nice, april 1st. Nice sunny day after a rainy cloudy weekend. Nice sunny day after a rainy, cloudy weekend. I'm ready to talk about some big topics. How are you feeling today?
Speaker 2:I'm feeling pretty good. I'm not as excited as I would normally be, but I'm all right. How are you guys doing?
Speaker 1:How are you? I'm good. Good, yeah, I had some therapy. This morning Talked about the good of bilateral stimulation of the mind, which is another byproduct of EMDR therapy. So anything can trigger that. If you hold hands while you work, if you are a runner or a walker and you're trying to think things out. That's a form of EMDR and bilateral stimulation. So we did a little bit of that today. But today, let's talk about something people may not be doing, which is holding themselves accountable.
Speaker 2:Yeah, accountability. Accountability, that's a big one. In my life right now. I've been talking from the standpoint of the accuser, you know what I mean or the person who is the problem, and being accountable for righting your wrong. If you've wronged somebody and you're sitting on it for too long, you're not holding yourself accountable If you know you should apologize. Maybe it's something small. You're not holding yourself accountable If you know you should apologize. Maybe it's something small, but usually it's something big. You're in a relationship with an old friend and it's your fault and you're not holding yourself accountable. That's the accountability we're talking about today. It's a little bit of humility as well, showing humility to a situation where you need to hold yourself accountable to move forward, whether that be at work, whether that be with your close friends, your family. Accountability is huge. How do you hold yourself accountable when you've wronged somebody?
Speaker 1:That was Accountability was a huge lesson in the military Since boot camp day one. You're accountable. You're accountable for, not only for yourself but, then they start putting you in charge of other motherfuckers and you become accountable for them as well. Even though we're from two different perspectives, you have done a very good job of holding yourself accountable every day.
Speaker 2:Definitely that's something that I really try and do. I don't necessarily like to be the problem in a situation. In order to get that off of my chest and that feeling away from me, I try, and you know, untie all the knots out of the rope and just get that weight off my shoulders. I don't like to carry around that mental stress or have that feeling upon me for so many years where I'm like, dang, I did this person wrong and I thought and I'm still thinking about it years later. Maybe the person's not even thinking about me, but because I'm the the, the victimizer, you know I hold a different type of weight and if you hold yourself accountable, then that's one of the things you can release. And if you hold yourself accountable, then that's one of the things you can release.
Speaker 2:And you know, just because you hold yourself accountable to doesn't mean that the person is going to receive your efforts to try and make amends or apologize or whatever it is that you're trying to write Doesn't mean that accountability goes by the wayside. You know, it's still very, it's a, it's a big deal for the soul. You know what I mean for humanity. I mean so many things happen because people don't hold themselves accountable. You know whether it be you know something that happens at work and somebody goes down for what it is that you did, and maybe you were truly the cause of it, getting in a car accident and just fucking calling it a buck. Man, you're like that's me, my bad, you know, and just holding yourself accountable like that would make the world a better place.
Speaker 1:Was there any story that comes to mind when you were thinking about accountability?
Speaker 2:Accountability for me is mostly you. You know my family and stuff like that and the relationships and the things that we need to work on. You know, um, I'm not gonna get into like a specific story just because I don't. I I've never asked my family if I could speak on them like that, so I'm not going to until I ask them. But you know, for me, these friends, you know, as I've gotten wronged by a lot of friends, by a lot of friends trying to be an entrepreneur, trying and creating businesses and or you know, even clients, uh, going to other artists and stuff like that and not holding themselves accountable for how they treated me. You know what I mean? That's a weird one too, right, yeah, client accountability towards tattooing all right, that'd be a whole another topic.
Speaker 2:But anyways yeah, um, there is no specific story for me that I want to share about it, just because, man, that's all personal. You know what I mean Like, and that's not necessarily how I want to go. I feel like I'm like letting too much out if I do that, but please know that I'm out there and if I've wronged you, make yourself known, because I would like to hold myself accountable and we can, we can get through that. You know what I mean, that's.
Speaker 1:And anyone listening that's. That's pretty big, at least in my book, to put yourself out here and we're putting ourselves on public broadcast for you to be vulnerable. I appreciate that today. I'll give you that for one and for two letting people come to you. Yeah, you know what I mean. You just threw the bait and the hook out there. Oh yeah, yeah we'll see who takes a bite out of it, and hopefully it doesn't come across as vengeful either or negative.
Speaker 2:Yeah, this is for growth. These conversations are for growth. This is not to say that you were wrong or anything like that, because that's not true accountability. Accountability is washing it, washing your hands, getting that dirt off of your hands, you know. Making sure that you wash your hands after you use the restroom. Holding yourself accountable Accountability.
Speaker 1:That's simple. Yeah, that's a simple way of putting it right there. No one's watching you Right. Make sure you're washing your hands.
Speaker 2:Right, yeah, but I challenge you guys to that. You know Everybody has that one person that they probably could do a little bit better with Everybody out there listening, right, you're wrong. And then come back and tell me how you feel after that. It's going to feel good, and it's not just for the feeling of good, it's for the growth of humans, it's for the growth in you. Man, like you hold these things in you and you're frustrated and you feel you've been wrong. Man, let that go. You know we only get but a window on this earth. You know, and existing is a pleasure and it's something that not everybody gets to do. If you're healthy and you're not ill and you're not deformed or anything like that, man, y'all better. You know, don't take this shit for granted. Don't take it for granted, man, hold yourself accountable. Make this place better, you know. Yeah, so that's my rant, motherfuckers, you feel me. That's a good rant, yeah, good rant.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's Monday. Mondays are good for rants, I feel like. So I will tell you a situation where I had a more formal type of accountability, and that's when I went through. I went through rehab, yeah, six years ago, and you got to hold yourself accountable. That's a big lesson for that too. And you apologize, you write your letters, you get things off your chest. So, coming from that perspective, I did, I was at one of the lowest levels of my life and I held myself accountable. I'm better for it, I'm a better man and I know how to do it now in a professional way, you know, not an acting out way, yeah, but yeah.
Speaker 2:So accountability is huge. It is huge and I feel like the longer you wait to hold yourself accountable, the more or the heavier the weight comes. You know, and it's just like, and then you feel like you can't do it and that person is just going to write you off and you know you forever got an asterisk on the side of your name because you did him dirty and you know it. There's a lot of ways you can hold yourself accountable to. It doesn't necessarily have to be from such a grief stage If you have a lot of children. If you have a lot of children, hold yourself accountable and be the best dad that you could possibly be. That doesn't mean be better than the dad over there. Be the best dad that you can be, your version of it, the authentic you.
Speaker 1:I'm so glad you brought up variety. That was what I was on the same page on as well. I'm going to keep reiterating this. He's going to keep reiterating this there's no set of rules to live in life, there's no set of rules to any of this, but doing something different may trigger a better part of you. This is why we did this. This is why we started this.
Speaker 2:These situations.
Speaker 1:We're hoping this triggers a better part of us. If it does, it does. If it doesn't, it doesn't. It was a fun experiment while it lasted, but I'm enjoying it and I think it is helping with my mental health. There's no right form of therapy. There's no right form of accountability. You just got to go out there and try something.
Speaker 2:Please, yeah, yeah and just call that person. Yeah, call that person.
Speaker 1:If you're fucked up.
Speaker 2:Own it, you know. Get it off your chest, Move on. It's not the end of the world. You're not going to jail. Nobody's hurt. You Just stand on something. That's being a man. They tell you to be a man. Put your chest down. That's being a man, holding yourself accountable.
Speaker 1:And we talked about that conversation.
Speaker 2:Or a woman. Yeah, hey, that's right. You know what I'm saying, that's right.
Speaker 1:We talked about that in our last episode Making that phone call or face-to-face and sometimes that is hard for some of us. I'm more of the. I'm going to shoot a text and try to give all my personality and feelings in this text and I know Brandon's laughing at me, but I know he's tried to read my text and see my feelings in it. It's hard to do. Some people cannot do that. So don't be afraid of that face to face meeting or that phone call and I prefer to call.
Speaker 1:He's a phone caller, which freaks me out. Sometimes I'm like, oh, I didn't do anything wrong.
Speaker 2:And it's more for the receiving of the energy. I want to temperature check. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:I usually feel better after the phone call. Anyways, yeah, it's just that, yeah.
Speaker 2:I got to get it Like hold up.
Speaker 2:I can't text how I feel. You know. Yeah, I got to get it Hold up. I can't text how I feel you know, yeah, yeah, chime in when you get a chance and go to the Instagram page and maybe write something about accountability If you've got something good to add to the equation and you feel like you could help us out and what it is that we're doing, how you hold yourself accountable and what it is that we're doing how you hold yourself accountable, man, I'm all for it. I'm all for it because we only got one opportunity out here and this world thrives off of energy and you want to make sure yours is positive and it's not all messed up.
Speaker 2:Man, lot of crappy people out there. You know like just doing shady shit and sometimes an accountability. You know to define that in an accountability way. You're not defining yourself in the right way. You know you're out there loose. You know you're not holding yourself accountable for being a good individual. Wake up, brush your teeth. You know what I mean. Put on fresh clothes if you got the opportunity to do so. If you don't have the opportunity to do so, go hard. Get what it is that you want out of this, but don't carry the trauma with you. You got trauma Release it.
Speaker 1:We've gotten, I feel so far we've gotten great energy in our DMs. Just one more time, that's at B2TOZpodcast. We're on Instagram, facebook, and we really would love to hear from you, even if you don't want us to share or shout you out, which we definitely will, by the way. Yeah, just hit us up. We like to know we're making a little bit of a difference to our listeners.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so be accountable for tapping in, you know.
Speaker 1:Wash that dish.
Speaker 2:Wash that dish, you know. Put it away, you know. Pick that dirty clothes up, you know those dirty clothes up, know those dirty clothes up, and wash them, don't just let them chill. This goes so far. It's so deep, you know. You guys gotta get motivated. I'm gonna, you know, I'm trying to stay motivated. I'm operating in a way where I want to be positive for you guys when you meet me. You know, and that doesn't mean I'm being fake I'm just choosing to be a positive individual and holding myself accountable to make sure that the world is positive. Each one, teach one Over here rambling.
Speaker 1:And for those of you listeners in Southern California, we are going to have some opportunities coming up where you can catch both of us together. One of them is going to be at a PTSD walk coming up in May. I'll give all the details on that. That's me and Fontana. And then we're also going to be doing a tattoo convention in Ontario, California.
Speaker 2:Ontario.
Speaker 1:InkCon, inkcon, coming up at the end of June. Ontario Convention Center. Yeah, so I'm giving them little seeds right now just to get you guys thinking and yeah, if you want to come out and hang out with us, we'd love to see you.
Speaker 2:Oh, I wanted to do one thing which I didn't even tell exactly, or maybe I did, but I wanted to shout out uh, some of the businesses that have been, you know, coming and spending money with me, let me go grab some business cards real quick, I'll be right back guys.
Speaker 1:So I know one of them specifically. He's going to shout out and that's my neighbor. My neighbor just came in and got his logo tattooed on his forearm Awesome, awesome, human. That's Bill Rosenthal with Badass Billy's Beef Jerky. And yeah, I know that's one of the cards he went up to get, but I'll let him list those off for you, All right.
Speaker 2:So the first one we'll start off is with Badass Billy's Beef Jerky at Ontario, california. This guy's a really good guy. You should just buy jerky from him because of how cool he is, but it does taste good as well. I tried it. We went through all kinds of flavors. He just got a tattoo of his logo his business logo on there. He's absolutely solid. He ended up being like a really good friends with one of my mentors at Apprentice me, so that was really cool too. The next one is Rachel York. Rachel York, physical therapy and wellness. She's at a Riverside guys. She's super dope. She's operating at a tournament house right now and if you just had a baby or you just went through an injury or anything like that, please go hit her up. You know, I know she specializes in all different types of things. I ask these companies if I can shot them out. I'm not being paid for this, you feel me? So this is all love, um, so please go give them a follow.
Speaker 1:These people mean a lot to us. Yeah, I'm willing to promote them as much as I can right, and there's another one's.
Speaker 2:It's Orange Grove Detail. This is Eric man. He's off of Adams, 2900 Adams. Okay. So you guys go check him out. He does car detail. He does a really good job. If you want your car cleaned up looking brand new, he can handle that for you. He just started his business off, so let's go bless him with some money you off. So let's go bless him with some money you know and go support local business. And the last one is AA Designs. This is my boy, Andrew. He's a graphic designer. He's graduated from Cal Baptist real soon here.
Speaker 2:He's done some logos and seals and certificates that for my brother's books and we're working on some motorsports designs right now. He's also done some stuff for my business personally. He's really good. Check him out AA Designs. His name's Andrew. I just wanted to shout those companies out. Obviously, you guys need to come get tattoos by me. B-main Studios, man.
Speaker 1:We're holding you accountable. If you want to know. I have this roundup time.
Speaker 2:Is that okay with you? Yeah, let's round it out I got two quotes again.
Speaker 1:Is that, uh, you liking that you?
Speaker 2:like.
Speaker 1:I like two quotes it gives us a little little little flexibility to bounce stuff off. Of. First one I asked good, it's good, uh, good leaders saying these quotes? First one was Mahatma Gandhi. He said it is wrong and immoral to seek to escape the consequences of one's acts. Goes right along with what we were saying today. Right yeah?
Speaker 2:Yeah, gandhi, don't lie't lie, don't fuck around yeah, so come on, guys, you know this. You shouldn't just be hearing this the first time today. You know. You guys know, we all know how we should be acting and how you know each other accountable.
Speaker 1:So when he said that, I know I don't have a date, but yeah, that was a good one. So the second quote I have is from one of the fathers of our of the United States, thomas Paine. He was a great author and he even goes a little further. He goes a body of men holding themselves accountable to nobody ought not to be trusted by anybody. Dangerous, dangerous, yeah.
Speaker 2:That sounds like a man who's been through some things or done some things and learned from his mistakes.
Speaker 1:One or the other.
Speaker 2:That's heavy. That's heavy. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Got some good ones today. Thank you again for joining us. Appreciate you tuning in. Go ahead and like and subscribe. That's B2C Podcast. Thank you.
