Ever stumbled upon the conundrum of whether to exchange passwords with your partner, or felt the weight of 'good lies' resting on your conscience? We tackle these intricate nuances of modern relationships, offering personal insights and diverse viewpoints. You'll hear us debate the balance between trust and privacy, as we dissect the complex dynamics of sharing our digital keys. Listener contributions add depth to the conversation, prompting us to reflect on the baggage we carry and the space we treasure within our most intimate connections.
Now, let's get real about the qualities that make relationships last beyond the initial spark. I share my experiences, including the challenge of nurturing love while navigating a demanding career in the military, revealing how life's pressures can shape our romantic decisions. We also consider the evolving landscape of commitment, where the dance of honesty and protection takes center stage. With candid discussions on what it takes to forge deep connections, this episode promises to leave you with a fresh perspective on finding and fostering love that's focused on growth and enjoyment, rather than just checking off a list.
Rounding off with a celebration of camaraderie, we shine the spotlight on our friend Sam's inspiring fitness journey and the supportive network within our community. Our conversation is a testament to the strength we derive from each other's successes and struggles, as we exchange advice and laughs in equal measure. Join us for an episode that's not just about relationships but also about the joy of companionship, the thrill of personal growth, and the beauty of embracing life's 'crazy' moments with those who stand by our sides.
Ever stumbled upon the conundrum of whether to exchange passwords with your partner, or felt the weight of 'good lies' resting on your conscience? We tackle these intricate nuances of modern relationships, offering personal insights and diverse viewpoints. You'll hear us debate the balance between trust and privacy, as we dissect the complex dynamics of sharing our digital keys. Listener contributions add depth to the conversation, prompting us to reflect on the baggage we carry and the space we treasure within our most intimate connections.
Now, let's get real about the qualities that make relationships last beyond the initial spark. I share my experiences, including the challenge of nurturing love while navigating a demanding career in the military, revealing how life's pressures can shape our romantic decisions. We also consider the evolving landscape of commitment, where the dance of honesty and protection takes center stage. With candid discussions on what it takes to forge deep connections, this episode promises to leave you with a fresh perspective on finding and fostering love that's focused on growth and enjoyment, rather than just checking off a list.
Rounding off with a celebration of camaraderie, we shine the spotlight on our friend Sam's inspiring fitness journey and the supportive network within our community. Our conversation is a testament to the strength we derive from each other's successes and struggles, as we exchange advice and laughs in equal measure. Join us for an episode that's not just about relationships but also about the joy of companionship, the thrill of personal growth, and the beauty of embracing life's 'crazy' moments with those who stand by our sides.
All right, all right, all right. Good morning listeners. It's April 15th, tax Day, and this is B2Z Podcast. How you doing, brandon? I'm doing good.
Speaker 2:I got to get those taxes off. You know I'm last minute.
Speaker 1:You haven't done yours yet. No, I haven't done it. I'll pay a little fee this year.
Speaker 2:I got you, I got you. Yeah, I hate taxes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think that's generally the case with everybody.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I get bullied all year and then bullied one more time here.
Speaker 1:pay this we're doing live session uh for today's podcast, so thank you everyone for joining in. It's a little early in the morning it is, and today we have a controversial topic.
Speaker 2:Go ahead, zach.
Speaker 1:Yes, we're going to talk about relationships today, and this was a big one.
Speaker 2:People were getting pretty excited when I posted the teaser. I like relationship talk. Everybody's gone through it. Everybody has a different experience, so it's nice to get into relationships. Maybe I'll learn something because I struggle for you comes from Joanna.
Speaker 1:She says sharing passwords for social media or phone.
Speaker 2:Is that? Is that a good thing to do in a relationship or a bad thing? I think it's both. If you're, if your relationship can handle that, then do it. If you have a jealous counterpart or partner, then I wouldn't do it. Me and mine. We don't share passwords. That shit pisses me off a little bit. I feel like I should have the ability to go in your phone, not to snoop, but just access to, like your wallet or something like that. You know, yeah, I don't think it's required, but I definitely think it's a way that you could show somebody trust, um, or if you're not hiding something and you want them to feel comfortable yeah unlock your phone.
Speaker 2:What about you?
Speaker 1:I'm usually pretty open about my password to my phone. It's not anything complicated, it's just I won't give my actual password, but I'm pretty open about it. If you want to go through my phone and go through that spider web, then go for it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I have a password. I don't guard it heavily, you know. I put it so, if I ever die, that they'll be able to unlock it, so it's not too bad for a relationship.
Speaker 2:The phone is never a good thing, like it's always a problem, whether it's somebody who's overstepping, sending a message you know and then I don't know. I think something should be private and then I don't know. I think something should be private. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you have to have everything of that human. If you trust them, you trust them. It shouldn't matter whether you get access to their phone or not.
Speaker 1:Agree.
Speaker 2:Out there? Yeah, definitely, let us know what you think.
Speaker 1:Let's take a look. Crazy Flip says it's a can of worms. Yeah, I definitely agree with that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Bringing your phone into your relationship is with old baggage and old pictures and stuff. That's a grenade, a little time bomb just waiting to happen. You got to get rid of that stuff or hide it very well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, to me it's like spring cleaning you clean your garage, you clean up the house, the closets. You got to go through your phone every once in a while. Delete those old messages, delete those old pictures if they don't mean anything to you anymore, which they shouldn't right. Yeah, yeah, I don't, man. That's all I'm telling you, that's just.
Speaker 2:I would love access just to have that peace of mind. But I would also like to keep a peace of mind. You know what I mean Private and it's just like or something that isn't something that, something that's not always tripped about. I hate having a phone. I think it's crazy how people get upset over phones, what somebody said, what somebody sent you. You know, as a tattoo artist, we get things sometimes that are just off. You know, titty pictures or people in the middle of the night, you know, drunk and just. You know venting. They feel like tattooers are good people for that. So my phone sometimes looks like shit. You know venting. They feel like tattooers are good people for that. So my phone sometimes looks like shit, you know. And then, yeah, I get a lot of pictures of clients and stuff like that. So if you were to look through my phone and you had bad intentions on your brain, you might, you could be able to get pissed off every single time you look. I don't know.
Speaker 1:Perception. I'm going to circle back to what you first said, which was, if you're in a position where you're trying to rebuild that relationship, maybe it is better to have open phones, open connection, at that point.
Speaker 2:Yeah, open dialogue is always best for any new relationship. You know you don't want to bring baggage from your last relationship into the next one, because it does define certain areas. You make people pay for the mistakes of your last partner. You know, say you were cheated on over and over and you kept forgiving them. The next guy is going to pay for that. You know as well as his phone. They're going to be all up in his phone.
Speaker 1:So I don't know. This is my buddy, sebastian. If you don't have enough trust to trust her phone, are you supposed to trust her with your relationship?
Speaker 2:oh, that's a good one yeah, I think it goes both ways right, like so yes, you should be able to just trust her and whatever she has going on in her phone is her business. But that relies, that's, on the person you know. It sounds like he can trust his you know kudos to you, but a lot of these people out here can't be trusted. You know, is Sebastian married. Do you know this guy?
Speaker 1:I know, I know him through the working dogs and he's giving us as a podcast, a lot of great feedback. Okay, uh, to me outside looking in and I've done, uh even a work at his house, super supportive um relationship that he's in um so good. Good Kudos to you, yeah.
Speaker 2:But thank you, sebastian, that's coming from a good place, it sounds like. Yeah, trust is everything in a relationship. Without that, you're not going to go to many places, or you might go to a lot of places, but you're just not going to enjoy each other. You know, having that transparency in your relationship is key. Having that transparency in your relationship is key, yeah.
Speaker 1:Want to jump to the next one.
Speaker 2:Yeah, go to the next one. Let's see what else we got. So I'm going to go back to that big one.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'm going to go to some red or green flags to look for. Okay red or green flags and that came from Victoria. She goes to Cal Poly, pomona Computer engineer major.
Speaker 2:Okay, red or green flags. Red flag for me. This is going to be petty, but the first one is dirty shoes. Have you walked around with some dusty ass shoes? Dirty shoes. Oh my God, if we're in a romantic situation and the first time I meet you you have some dusty ass shoes on, I'm thinking that's game changer. Yeah, it's kind of like having dirty nails for me. You know what I mean. Yeah, it's like, oh, look at that there. You know, and nothing against y'all. This is mine, you know. But if you show up and you got some Crocs and some dirty-ass socks on or some Yeezy slides with some dirty-ass socks on, that's a wrap.
Speaker 1:You're not fucking with that, that's a wrap.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I don't know, that's a little superficial, but I don't give a fuck, I don't care about that, but I just well. What's another red flag?
Speaker 1:so I'll, I'll match you, but a green flag. Okay, I have off that as, yeah, dirty shoes, that is bad. But I do want like to me, a green flag is if that person feels comfortable. Okay, not over the top comfortable, um, but it does feel comfortable.
Speaker 2:But respectful of you and that is it like when they're in your house, when they're around you, just PDA.
Speaker 1:Yes, all the above, yeah, yeah, but you got to put the time in, so maybe not right off the bat, but someone who you feel is already putting that effort right off the bat.
Speaker 2:That's a green flag. That's a green flag. Yeah, to make you feel is already putting that effort right off the bat. That's a green flag.
Speaker 1:That's a green flag to make you feel comfortable, because I I like making people feel comfortable right off the bat okay, yeah, that could go both ways for me.
Speaker 2:You know, you put the, you put your feet up on my once again we're talking about. That's too comfortable yeah yeah, you put your feet up on my leather couch. We have a. What the fuck are you doing? Put your. You know.
Speaker 1:Feet on the dash.
Speaker 2:Manners, goddammit, you know that's a big one for me Feet on the dash. I'm out of feet on the dash.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I mean, it's usually a set of dirty feet too. Yeah, you know, like, what's another red flag for you? There's another place for them, and they're not on the dash. I don't mind them out the window, I'll find that odd. But not on the dash. Relationships, guys, they're crazy. Red flags and green flags. That's what we're going through. And now what's a red flag for me? Um, if you don't drive ambition, ambition is a huge red flag. If you don't have any ambition, or you're not striving for anything other than just to work and babies, you know, then that's a problem. I want you to have a little bit of dream in you. You know, a little glimmer in your eye, yeah, so if you don't have ambition, that's a red flag, and if you have ambition, that's a green flag. No, how many serious relationships have you been in?
Speaker 1:At least half a dozen. Okay, yeah, so I consider my serious relationships were the ones I could put up with if they could put up with for about a year, year plus with if they could put up with for about a year, year plus.
Speaker 2:Uh, so I got about six real good, serious relationships in there. Yeah, what do you think about those people that uh jump in from one relationship to the next, serial monogamous or serial daters or whatever they're called, those people that just continue to date. They go from one to the next. You ever dealt with anything like that?
Speaker 1:Or have you ever been that? I can't say I've ever been, that I've been told I'm too picky.
Speaker 2:Yeah. Yeah, people have told me that Does a rebound work For everybody out there listening does a rebound person work?
Speaker 1:Does a rebound person work? And I'll even ask you this does, going back to the same person, ever work in your mind?
Speaker 2:or your experience. Yeah, I mean, I look at relationships as things that you choose, you want to put time into, just like a painting um, it's a long, it's your long-term project. Um, I date with the idea of being the last person I date you know like, and I'm not big on marriage. So it is about commitment and a strong connection that keeps me, not just a ring or religion. No, I want to know that my person is. It's mine, you know, and that's not in a possessive sense but, like, in an energy way, like she wants to be around me. I want to be around her Relationships. I've always struggled with them because I'm very honest in them. You know, and sometimes you gotta lie. You know what's a good lie in a relationship. What's a good lie in a relationship?
Speaker 1:give me that well, so I felt very similar to you. I feel like I'm very honest. In general, I'll spit out sideways shit and sometimes it's not what people want to hear or what they were expecting. So I got that's similar with you.
Speaker 2:But what is a?
Speaker 1:lie to tell in a relationship A good lie. She doesn't mean anything to me. Oh shit, that was deep, that's a good one and that's happened to me.
Speaker 2:Um, and I told that life and how did that affect the future of that relationship?
Speaker 1:it usually eats me up before it eats them up. So that lie eats me up, yeah, and I have to do something about it. Yeah.
Speaker 2:I mean shoot. There's several reasons. Like they ask me oh, do I look good? Yes, you look amazing today. Does this taste good? Mm-hmm, my mom gets on me all the time about that. She's like you got to learn how to lie better, you know? Just like give a peace of mind a little so people can have their joy. I'm not like that, you know. I guess I'd be a hard person to be with because I'm not like that.
Speaker 1:So the food doesn't taste good. You tell food tastes like shit.
Speaker 2:I mean, is it worth it?
Speaker 1:What to lie or to not lie For the reaction. Oh, so you, okay, in your experience, yeah, have you held back on saying the lie?
Speaker 2:if I feel like it's gonna hurt the information's gonna destroy you and like send you in a whirlwind, then I'll probably I'll, I'll go around it and I'm going to tell you because I tried. I have a hard time with flying, but I'm going to roll it out later, like maybe that could have used a little spice, or you know.
Speaker 1:Cleaned up a little bit. Huh, cleaned it up a little bit. Yeah, yeah, cleaned up a little bit. Huh, cleaned it up a little bit yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah yeah. This is difficult too, because you know I'm in a relationship, so you know my lady's going to be watching this and just picking it apart. So there's your shout out.
Speaker 1:But I think that goes both ways. We're putting ourselves out there from our experience, so I actually learned what I think we're doing in therapy today. So this is podcasting. We're getting our voices out there, we're getting our experiences out there. We're hoping people learn from our experiences and enjoy them. But we're like a group support out there. We're hoping people learn from our experiences and enjoy them, but we're like a group support session.
Speaker 2:Yeah, especially the feedback.
Speaker 1:I've been getting it's oh man. I really enjoy your perspective on that. So we're like, we're causing a Think tank yeah, think tank, yeah, we're just kicking think tank. Yeah, yeah, kicking it around. So I learned that therapy, sport, so I thought that was really cool.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so do you want to go into that? That last, let's do it. Yeah, just because we don't want to hold back. No, this is organic, guys.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so this came from and maybe some of you might not know this about me. I worked at a Lego store for about four years while I first started going to school. This is my manager there, Dolores. She's put up the question why society looks at marriage as being the end game or the goal in relationships why does society look at that? And it's a caveat is this tied into religion? Does religion make this, make marriage bigger than what it is?
Speaker 2:No, I think it demeans it a little bit. I think the more paperwork and government sanctions they put on it and permits you need, the worse off it is. It's not about love anymore. People use it as advancement. You know, because everything is intertwined with our finances. The end, all of religion, man. You know I'm not a big enough Christian to ask answer that question. I was asking some people the other day and everybody has a different perspective. I think it's intertwined within religion, just because it's a proper way to go about an interaction, a lifelong interaction, with somebody and treat them to their best. And God seals everything for everybody. You know, whatever religion you're getting married in, I guess he seals it up for you.
Speaker 2:I don't know, when I get married, it's not going to be because God or my Christian roots, it's just because I'm devoting my energy to this person. You know, that's why I'll get married. If there's religious benefits to it, cool. You know, it's like one of those coupons you get for bakers Del Taco, you know all of that stuff. Yeah, if there's benefits to it, then sure I'll take them all. All religious benefits, I'm all for it.
Speaker 2:But that's not why I would get married. I want to get married for, so my kids can see me walk down the aisle. Change your mom's last name, but that's like political, religious stuff. You know I don't necessarily need that. Yeah, and I don't necessarily need that. Yeah, I don't know. I don't want her to feel like she can't run away either. You know I'm not here to chain you up through paperwork or anything like that. Anytime you want to go, you can go, Because if you truly want somebody happy, you know you just want what's best for them. That's a crazy statement, but it's true. Yeah, it is true. What else we got over there?
Speaker 1:So another, another piece of this, and I feel like this is kind of interesting too. I feel like this is kind of interesting too. How do you feel about people that pry into each other's relationships and ask them why aren't they?
Speaker 2:married, or why they did get married, or why their parents got divorced or whatnot. Yeah, mind your business. That's none of your goddamn business.
Speaker 1:And how can you be, how do you say to people, how can you be in a committed relationship without putting that title on it, like this is my wife, this is my girlfriend.
Speaker 2:Well, if a title means something to you, then put a title on it. You know, some people don't need that to be in love. Some people don't want their love defined. You know, oh, this is marriage. What if it's not? What if it's not? You know what if the Egyptians had it right? What if the Buddhists had it right? You know who's to say. But if it makes you feel good and that's part of your ceremony, you know, go for it, right.
Speaker 1:And do you think so? Let's tiptoe into something that we're not entirely experienced. We're both heterosexual, we're both heterosexual. We're putting out there Do you think hetero, not married couples are less common now than same sex partners, or do you think that's easily received?
Speaker 2:I think the fact that we have so many types of relationships is different. I only know one, you know. I only know one. So no, I know a few others. I haven't participated in any, but I've always been a traditional if you can call that traditional with my relationships. I don't think. Yes, I think the balance is kind of evening out. I still feel like heterosexual couples are the majority, because that is what we chose to come from. You know what I mean. I believe this new swing with sexuality and relationship type is it's needed. It's needed because you know, for people who find it hard to be in a relationship without cheating. All right, they got a name for you now and a specific group for your ass. So now you don't have to wreak havoc on Beth over here, who's in the Christianity dating pool, and just want something normal. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:So more things are becoming the norm.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it opens up, it becoming the norm. Yeah, it opens up, it's more accepting. People are becoming more accepting with the datings because of the big revealing of they, them, their, the religious spectrum, all of these things. You know, life is evolving and that's one of the things that's kind of evolved heavily is sexuality and the way that people are approaching their relationships. I know kings back in the day used to have more than one wife they used to sleep with. They had known servants who were concubines and whatnot, and I see a lot of people kind of go back to those old ways.
Speaker 2:But it's also influenced a little bit by religion, you know, and history. So I don't think it's wrong and I don't think it's right. I do think that as a man it is hard to tame that edge. You know what I mean, which is why you get all these men who cheat and I think it's cool that all these youngsters get an opportunity to. You know, live it in a different fashion, because there was no such thing as an open relationship when we were growing up. If you was in an open relationship, you was just fucking other people, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you didn't talk about it, no.
Speaker 2:No, you know it wasn't. Oh yeah, you know we get hurt and if you did it it was considered taboo or you had a swinger overtone. But now, yeah, they're out here doing it and I don't. I don't like to share. Okay, I don't like to share, so you can't have none of mine. You feel me? I'm not sharing my food, my lady, my car. You feel me I'm none of that. My phone, you can't, can't make no calls on my stuff. Yeah, there's just some things that I'm not sharing, and my girl is one of them, me being a germaphobe Bro, are you kidding me? Yeah, if you, are you kidding me? Absolutely not. These dudes be dirty out here. You know I'm going to use my lady up when they send her home. Absolutely not.
Speaker 2:And to the open relationship folk out there, kudos to y'all for having the mindset to be able to get through that type of stuff, because, man, I don't possess it and it just shows me that we are so different in this world because, I don't know, I have all kinds of like. It would be more acceptable if it was a girl. Do you feel me Like a dude I couldn't be with, but it'd be okay if it was a girl, because I'm selfish in my own ways. You know what I mean, like I'm all fucked up. So you know that's the problem with these things, you're being honest, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's a good thing being honest.
Speaker 2:But then I wouldn't want two problems, compounded problems. I don't want that. You know I like having one problem, one thing to fix. You got all those ladies, man, and not to say that. But y'all ladies be on our helmets, man. We feel like we got to fix shit in relationships. You know, when you're're angry, when you're upset, we feel like we have to. Uh, our ladies should be happy. Men take that as a um, as a negative. If we see our lady sad or moping around the house and stuff like that, we that is a direct correlation to a little bit of our manhood, because how we like not race, but how we care for you is considered. A lot of our worth is put on that. It's on that scale. Stop moping around your man if he's dope. Stop moping around this dude. You'll break a good man down with a bad attitude trying to get what you want. Or Stop moping around this dude. You'll break a good man down with a bad attitude Trying to get what you want or just being an asshole.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what I can add to that is just support. I've had relationships where I didn't have a lot of support and I've had relationships where I did have support, and that could be the difference maker as well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Good support system like we did hit a topic we dance around the topic and I think this is going to be our tease into the next topic. Our next one-on-one session is going to be probably religion based, so shoot some questions to the dm, stay tuned, as always. Yeah, but I think because we're tiptoeing around some cool shit and I want to jump more into it.
Speaker 2:Oh, can I say one thing, absolutely Okay, one thing. When we decided to talk about relationships, I wanted to challenge everybody to think about a different type of relationship, not just the intimate one with your significant other, but the relationship that you have with life, with your kids, with your job. Which ones are heavy, which ones are heavy, which ones are light. You know, I feel like little adjustments make a huge difference in relationships and you know, say, if you're single and you like the flashy dude who's a a hard person to be with, like it's probably not going to work out in your favor. A small adjustment could, you know, lead to happiness in a different form.
Speaker 2:I was talking to one of my clients about that the other day and how I was talking about black women specifically, like how I would never attracted a ton of black women, and they were like, oh yeah, you know. And I was like well, for me it's because they like a certain type and I don't fit the demographic type of flashy. You feel me Like, you know, and we were talking about a specific type of girl who likes a specific type of man and she was complaining oh, you know, these relationships, da-da-da, and I'm like, whoa, like you, you dating shit. Do you know what I mean? Like you're not really dating men, you know, but we're not out there doing that type of stuff. We're at home, you know, we're at Home Depot. Yeah, you know what I mean. We're at AutoZone, we're doing things, we're uh.
Speaker 2:So if you're looking for a quality man man, it is not the dude at the club shining in front of you, that's a weekend warrior. You know, like he puts on that best outfit. It probably took two weeks to buy those Balenciagas that he had to save up for. Catch me, catch a man like me in some vans chilling at the park doing some yard work. You know, I think switching what you want and what you need is huge in relationships. So if you guys are single out there, it's not about what you want, it's about what you need and that's huge for you, because you over there chasing the wrong thing. You know it's like the dog chasing the semi tire like, okay, buddy, one day you're gonna get it and your ass is gonna get level.
Speaker 2:yeah, you're not gonna like it, and you know how many baby daddies should we count up? You know what I mean? We know there's a lot of people out there that have gone to the shiny dude rather than a reliable dude, and I am a reliable dude, I'm not a shiny dude. You could put a dude next to me who's you know? He's a peacock, you know, but I'm a fucking falcon. You feel me so like, yeah, we don't have the same shine and stuff like that, but you definitely want to be on this side. So fucking change your mindset on relationships and when you're approaching these things. Yes, that motherfucker probably looks good, you know. Same for men, same for men. Yes, she probably looks good. But, brad, is that what you want to sign up for? What kind of human being? You know, because there is a little bit of truth to you know. You put so much time into your body. It is a little bit of narcissism, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:And that doesn't mean, don't do it.
Speaker 2:You know, be the best you can. You know, look the best you can for whatever that is, but do it in a healthy manner. Do it in a healthy manner.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that brought two things to mind for me. That's kind of a younger versus getting older mindset too. You learn that, and you also brought something to the top for me. You also brought something to the top for me. When I was in the military. I had a horrible toxic relationship with the military. I was a machine on that end. I could get everything I needed completed, but all my other relationships struggled in one way or another. Right, so that was a bad relationship with my workplace.
Speaker 2:Yeah, right, so that was a bad relationship with my workplace. Mm-hmm, yeah, I mean relationships. They're just like getting a new car. It's all exciting in the beginning. Hey, look at this, like it does this, it does that, and then it starts to feel normal. So that's why you want to focus on the human being rather than just the look of them, you know.
Speaker 1:So you ready for a roundup? Yeah, I got two quotes again. Bring them on. One's by the author Charles Dickens.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:The pain of parting is nothing compared to the joy of meeting again. So I feel like that goes along with. Uh, maybe your relationship didn't work out the first time around. Maybe you can work out a second time.
Speaker 2:You believe that? Yeah, yeah, you, yeah, yeah. I'm in a relationship like that. I'm in one like that yeah yeah, you, yeah, I'm in a relationship like that. I'm in one like that, where, but it takes two yes, oh yeah, I can believe. I can believe, till the cows go home. But you know I still be fucking up, creating issues and all kind of shit. You know there's two counterparts, but on my side, yeah, ten toes down.
Speaker 1:And then I got a deep one by the philosopher Epicurus you don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity, so I feel like that fit in well to a good portion of our show as well, mm hmm, so many people give up on relationships?
Speaker 2:Mm, hmm, so many people give up on relationships. They search for greener grass. They put all that energy and that knowledge from going through the trauma into a new relationship and I don't know. Sometimes it's better to just stick with what you know rather than go out there and try over and over and over. I feel like there's this big stigma about a person checking all the boxes. Like, if you're doing the work and you're egoless and stuff like that, you're not going to put that on your spouse Like, oh, you got to check all the boxes and they're like nah, you're a piece of shit if you're trying to make somebody do that. Can you put that in the roundup too? You're a piece of shit if you try and make them do that. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, be open. Be open, guys. Relationships are supposed to be fun. We get in them and we treat them like contracts and it's just like you do this. I fucking hate you. That's a deal breaker. Then we go in and we put all this negativity. He better have this. She better have that.
Speaker 1:Some of the funnest relationships I had were borderline red flags, orange flags, but it was fun for the time being. Yeah, is that fun now and every day? Yeah, fuck, no, I enjoy a little crazy.
Speaker 2:I do. I enjoy a little bit of crazy. That shit is fun. It was when I was younger and I had the energy for it. Oh man, not now, but definitely not now. Definitely not now. It's a different type of crazy. Now that's out here, you know she might bring a dude home. Talking about this. Is us like? No, that's not us, you know, that's you on that note.
Speaker 1:You want to shout out our next guest, who we got? Oh, my buddy Spike, yes yes, yes, yes, oh.
Speaker 2:We got one of my buddies coming up and for the next interview. He's amazing. He's a shop owner out of Marietta. He owns Captain Tattoo. He's been tattooing around 22 years. This is going to be a super solid interview interview. Nothing against the last interview, it's just a different type. You know, if you're expecting tattoo tips, you're probably not going to get it, but we will get a lot of good stories and Spike is an interesting character that has been pivotal in my years of tattooing. He's been there since day one. He fixed my machines and I've kept that contact and I'm gonna bring him to you guys so you can check his personality out. He's cool, captain tattoo and, uh, marietta.
Speaker 1:All right, spike more at spike more on a big shout out to spike and and shout out to michael uh welsh too, for being our first guest.
Speaker 2:First guest. Hopefully you guys like that.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'd also like to shout out we did have technical issues. We had technical issues.
Speaker 1:So if you were listening, to that last episode and it sounded pretty shoddy. I apologize. We thought it'd be cool for our new guest to open up a brand new mic.
Speaker 2:And that mic was damaged. We got the silver Fox out, yeah, so we got a brand new mic.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we're classy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we got the arm, so we're getting good. Okay, I'd like to shout out my buddy.
Speaker 1:He keeps giving me support, so I'm going to shout him out Rob, rob, he was my gunner, oh old gunny Rob.
Speaker 1:Yeah, in Afghanistan and he's working his way up the military ladder. I'm proud of him, okay, I'm really proud of him. He's going to be, he's going to probably do his 20 years, retire and all that. Yeah, totally, shout out what I did and I'm super proud of him for that. Oh, shout out, rob, appreciate your service. Brother, they're not the same, but I worked with them both at Lego One. Sam, he's been giving us a ton of support. He's probably going to be the next Arnold Schwarzenegger. He's hitting the gym like crazy, oh damn. And my buddy Tomas. I tell him I go. It's like you get tiered advice. It goes from Brandon to me, to him and then back around the circle again, because I get advice from him as well. Yeah, so a big shout out to him, Shout out to all our supporters. This is fun. This is the end of our show. I hope you guys have a great day. Thanks for listening. Thanks for listening, bye.